How to be a better wife and mother

Sometimes, it can be hard to keep up with what seems like a never-ending list of tasks. You struggle to balance your personal and professional lives. But don’t worry, this blog post is here to help! Here are 23 practical ideas that will make you a better wife or mother in only 3 minutes per day — so you’ll have plenty of time left over for the things that really matter.

1. Make your husband’s or children’s favorite food

A good wife or mother always knows what makes her loved ones happy, so do it on a regular basis. For instance, make your husband’s or children’s favorite dish or meal at least once a week. Make a family-meal plan that you all can follow so you don’t waste any time in the kitchen. Doing this will also give you an opportunity to bond with each other and let your loved ones know how much you love them.

2. Write out goals that you want to achieve this year

One of the easiest ways to be a better wife or mother is to spend some time thinking about what you want and how you’re going to get there. Write out a list of things that you want to accomplish this year and then take some time each day or at the end of each week to revisit this list and think about how those things might be affected by the tasks, people, outcomes, etc. you’re responsible for. This will help you prioritize and plan more effectively.

3. Take a few moments each day to recognize your accomplishments

This is a very important thing to do, because it helps you hold up a mirror to yourself that shows how far you’ve come and how much your life has changed. Tell people about it! You might find that this results in more encouragement from others and leads to some personal growth opportunities. Perhaps someone could even offer some helpful advice on how you can keep improving.

4. Take a self-centered day

Listen to music, indulge yourself with your favorite treats and/or binge-watch your favorite TV shows — don’t feel guilty about it. You deserve it! You’ve been so busy these days and you just can’t get enough rest. If you take the day off from chores, no one’s going to die, not even a goldfish. Relax and enjoy yourself for a change. It will help you to be a better wife or mother in no time.

5. Choose a few things you feel terrible about right now and fix them

It doesn’t have to be anything complicated. For example, if you need to be more organized with your chores, spend a few minutes reorganizing your schedule for the week so that there’s more time for everything you need to do. Or maybe your kids’ rooms are messy, or their clothes are dirty. Fix it! It makes a big difference when children know that Mom is in charge and will make sure things get done. And it will help you become a better wife or mother too.

6. Never forget that laughter heals everything

Laughter is one of the best cures for any sort of problem in life. If you are feeling sad, just start laughing. If your relationship is in trouble, laugh at the funny parts of it. If you’re overwhelmed by work or life in general, laugh at yourself for not seeing it sooner. Even if you don’t feel like laughing, make yourself do it anyway — doctors even recommend laughter therapy!

7. Start moisturizing your hands and feet

One thing that’s often overlooked is the importance of taking care of our hands and feet. But if we want to look and feel our best, we need to make sure we’re moisturizing them regularly.

While doing so, listen to some relaxing music and focus on what a wonderful person you are. You deserve it!

One key time to moisturize your hands and feet is right before bed. That way, the moisturizer can soak in while you sleep. There are many different types of hand and foot lotions available, so find one that works best for you.

Another way to take care of your hands and feet is to wear socks or gloves when you wash dishes or do other chores that can dry them out. You can also put a humidifier in your room at night to help add moisture to the air.

By taking care of your hands and feet, you’ll be a better wife and mother because you’ll look and feel healthier!

8. Make a list of things you’ve always wanted to do but never did

If it makes you feel better to think about it more, imagine that by doing this, you’ve already done these things! You deserve it! You’ve got lots of time on your hands now and if you want to do something really great, why not make a plan? Maybe one of the things on that list is making a trip around the world and being able to see the places you always wanted to visit. There’s no better way to celebrate your freedom than by embracing it!

9. Make your bed every morning

It doesn’t matter how tired you are, if you make your bed while it’s still dark out, you’ll be able to sleep like a baby and wake up feeling refreshed every morning. There are also many other benefits to making your bed in the morning, like having a quiet house on a Sunday.

10. Take cleaning breaks throughout the day

Take breaks from cleaning and do something else for at least 10–20 minutes each hour or so. This will help keep you from getting burnt out and will give you time to rest and relax when you need it most. After all, isn’t that one of the things a good mother or wife should do — take care of herself?

11. Make a note to be more cheerful with your loved ones

You’ve been feeling so stressed out that it’s hard to show any joy and this is affecting your relationships — it takes two to tango, after all! Do something different today and try to focus on what makes you happy rather than what stresses you out. A little smile goes a long way.

12. Spend some time asking yourself “why”

Think about your answers for why things happen in your life — what makes them so hard, stressful, or sad? If something feels hard or stressful, try asking yourself why it is that way. If you have an answer to the question, give it a try and see if it helps you to feel better.

13. Organize your cleaning supplies

If something makes your life easier, then there’s no reason not to make time for it — whether that means cleaning or washing the dishes or anything else. Take some time to reorganize your cleaning supplies and give things a fresh start. It always feels good to start over, so why not do it as often as you can?

14. Go for a walk every day

Experts agree that getting some exercise is one of the best ways to relieve stress and improve your overall health. If you take one step per day, it won’t take long for your steps to add up to a whole lot. It’s not only the physical health benefits that you get from walking that will make you feel better, but it will also boost your mood and productivity.

15. Talk with your husband or partner about how you can be a better wife, mother, or woman in general

Life is too short to keep doing the same things, especially if those things aren’t working for either of you. Take the time to talk to your husband or partner about how you can be a better wife or mother, and be ready to listen as well. Let him know what’s been worrying you and why. Nothing gets solved without communication. And don’t forget that your partner has some good ideas on how he thinks things can improve too!

16. Give an appreciative compliment to your husband or partner

Studies show that people who feel appreciated live longer and are happier. Even if you don’t feel like it, the good feeling from making someone else happy will start to rub off on you too. It’s a win-win!

17. Get more sleep

If you’re still struggling with this one, it’s time to make some changes. Try going to bed earlier or getting up later so that you can get a good eight hours of sleep every night. Skipping sleep altogether is never a good idea and will only lead to bigger problems down the road. After all, isn’t sleeping in one of the main things that wives and mothers love to do — take naps!

18. Read a book you’ve always wanted to read but never had time for

Make yourself some tea, get into your pajamas, light some candles, and snuggle up in your favorite blanket with your book. Turn off all the lights and focus on what makes you happy.

19. Do something that makes you feel proud of yourself every day for at least a week

It could mean walking your dog every day for half an hour or practicing yoga or getting things done around the house faster — whatever sets your heart on fire (literally!). There are no limits to what you can do to improve yourself, but be sure that you stick with the plan for at least a week before you give up.

20. Listen to your children and guide them

This will help them become happy and successful.
This might be a little difficult if your kids are still very young, but it doesn’t mean that you can’t start teaching them about being a parent. While you’re doing this, try to listen to them as well! You don’t have to be the mother from that movie who “can do no wrong.” It might feel hard at first, but helping your children develop into the best versions of themselves will only make your life easier!

21. Refrain from making negative comparisons

Comparisons are a trap we all fall into. It’s hard to do that, but the easiest way to get better is by taking action. Don’t put off any good ideas or tasks just because you’ve made a list of things you don’t have time for today — it will just become worse when something finally does get done. Just make time for what matters!

22. Share your thoughts and feelings with someone else

Consulting your close friends or carefully selected family members is a great way to make sense of your situation and admit what’s going on within you. If you’re not comfortable disclosing with anyone else, keep in mind that there are many channels out there where you can talk to someone — a therapist, a pastor or minister, your doctor, etc. Feeling better is something everyone should have the opportunity to do.

23. Get a massage

You deserve it! So do something nice for yourself. You can even try this at home if you’re short on time or cash by warming some sesame oil or coconut oil, then rubbing it into your calves and feet before bed. You can also add some bergamot or lavender oil for an extra boost of relaxation.

Conclusion

It’s just a few tips to start you off. There’s no right or wrong here, so do what works for you.
As long as you’re doing something that makes you feel better, you’re on the right track!
Once you’ve tried out some of the ideas above, try coming up with your OWN special activities just for YOU.
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